The Sacred Band is a squad for gay, bisexual and bicurious men meeting once a month for men who also belong to another weekly squad.
The Sacred Band of Thebes of around 378 BCE, an elite unit of the Theban army, consisted of 150 gay lovers fighting side by side. The fierce fighting unit was celebrated throughout Greece for its military success and courage.
The Sacred Band, which meets monthly, is for guys who believe they are or might be gay, bi or bi-curious. You do get to stay if you conclude you are straight. (Yes, we had one straight member). Without using labels, it is for anyone who identifies as a man and is attracted to men; has, wants or fantasises about sex with men; or is uncertain about his sexual orientation.
I will not disclose to anyone, without your permission, that you inquired about or joined this squad. Appearance in any group photos is optional.
All members of this squad must be members of one of the other Samurai Brotherhood squads that meet weekly. If you quit the Brotherhood, you must leave the Sacred Band after you complete the quarter for which you have prepaid for Sacred Band.
The Samurai Brotherhood is made up of conscious men, so, unsurprisingly, I have experienced only acceptance from my brothers and the entire leadership. As a gay man, I was accepted as one of the first co-captains of a squad, Red Dragon. My squad embraces me regardless of my sexual orientation. (Thanks, brothers!). The Brotherhood leadership also has embraced this new squad.
In all likelihood, each weekly squad has some gay or bi members; squads benefit from such diversity. I encourage gay and bi men to be out and discuss issues related to their relationships, sex and sexual orientation in their weekly squad meetings. However, I also recognise that many gay, bi and bi-curious men are not out; the stigma remains strong. And whether or not someone is out, the Sacred Band provides a forum to discuss issues that other gay, bisexual and bi-curious men can better address.
If this squad is for you, sign up below. The form below goes only to me. If you’re unsure, contact me at firstname.lastname@example.org to have a chat.
When: 2nd Wednesday of the month
Time: 7 p.m. to 10 p.m.
Location: Downtown Vancouver (inquire for details)
Dues: $30 per quarter